How do you grieve the things that you used to be able to do? How does a life-altering injury impact a marriage? What does it take to manage and overcome chronic pain?
In the sixth podcast episode of the How I Got Through It series, Joe Sanok speaks about recovering from a spinal injury with Emily Green.
In this Podcast:
- Grieving the letting go
- The change within relationships
- Developing hobbies after healing
Grieving the letting go
When you suffer from chronic pain, you also grieve the loss of the things you used to be able to do with ease and without thinking.
You are not only in physical pain but a sudden accident that changes your life can lead you to grieve the old life that you used to lead.
At first it was denial, a lot of denials… the first three years were a lot of denial. (Emily Green)
Emily struggled with things that she had not considered would ever be an issue for her, such as rolling over by herself, dressing or feeding herself, and standing up on her own.
However, in some ways, the shame helped Emily to hold onto the fact that she would recover again to a level where she can regain a sense of agency that was lost with her accident.
I needed help at levels that were not okay for me to need help, and that denial helped me [somewhat unhealthily] deal with the shame. (Emily Green)
The change within relationships
When someone experiences a life-altering event, the relationships that they are in also shift as some people become caretakers.
At first, [my husband and I] really struggled. We both got thrown into each other’s roles … what had always worked for us [couldn’t] anymore. (Emily Green)
It took Emily and her husband a long time of figuring out how to be on the same team and cope with the injury in ways that were supportive to one another while maintaining their marriage.
Developing hobbies after healing
Emily found hobbies that she could do within her body that didn’t require moving it too much, such as breathwork and qigong.
That for me was a big turning point because I needed resources and I [didn’t] have access to my other resources. (Emily Green)
Discovering hobbies that helped her to do something, rebuild a relationship with her body, and let go of stress became integral in her daily routine.
Books mentioned in this episode:
BOOK | Mantak Chia – Transforming stress into vitality [unavailable on amazon but available on other sites]
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